Recently, writer and editor Jennifer King Lindley approached me for tips on avoiding apology pitfalls. Please check out her finished piece in the May issue of Real Simple Magazine, available in stores now. Here are the highlights: How to apologize (and seem like you mean it). It’s hard to say “I’m Sorry.” And it’s especially hard […]
Welcome! I’m a practicing psychologist, author and apology critic who helps people find the right words for the right situation. I use my creativity to help my clients and friends work on their relationship and communication puzzles. Recently, I sat with a woman who loves her firstborn, grown child more than life itself. I […]
As a psychologist, I’ve spent time with hundreds of unhappy couples. They usually arrive with many stories to tell about how their partner has upset and disappointed them. Rather than having them repeat their laundry list of complaints, I try to switch things up. Often, I ask them to tell me what their partner is […]
Last week, a student who snuck into a locked building with his friends fell from the roof of the building and died. This tragedy occurred at U.Va., my alma mater. The young man’s parents (Tom and Vicki) have modeled LOVE and FORGIVENESS. Check out this dean’s observation of the parents: “Tom wasn’t focused on himself […]
Below, you’ll find a letter I’m sharing (with permission) and my tips for dialogue with others who don’t speak your apology language. He wrote: Jennifer, I finished your book within a week of buying it, which is much more indicative of the value I saw in its pages than that I’m a fast reader or […]
This commentary by Mike Wise in the Washington Post is powerful and personal. Kudos to Mike, Robin (quoted in my blog), and others who have spoken about their cheating without making excuses. Biggest kudos to those who maintain their vows without fail- may they not be a rare breed.
My co-author, Gary Chapman was quoted in this S.C. newspaper article. Good point!